Ganieda,
In answer to the first part:
"My question is this, how can we NOT be influenced by the culture of Native Americans/Canadians? How can we then NOT be interested to know more? I buy Native music all the time, I take it home and I listen to it...a lot....I like....a lot. It is impossible for me to not be influenced by it. "
Influenced and interested to know more, is one thing that I don't think any of us would look down upon. We encourage people to find out who we really are, and not the stereotype, that people percieve us as. That is not, seeing crafts, believing there is some magical power and mystery behind them that you then want to get involved with.
I meet other natives, visit their homes, have an interest in them and their tribe, but I would never dream of asking them questions of their beliefs, or sacred things. Should I be invited to a ceremony of some sort, all well and good, if I thought it was appropriate and right for me.
If you want to see ceremony, go visit a native pow wow. Yes, a pow wow is a ceremony, ( That will surprise some of our readers ), have a great day socialising and go home safe. So why the need to want to take part in other things, especially when they are fake.
Your other point:
"Then there is also the "sacred" objects that are not sold but given. I have a dreamcatcher that was made by a Native Canadian, and blessed by a Native Elder, especially for me. How can I ignore the spiritual significance of this? I can't. It means too much to me. Do I use it correctly? Yes....it's NOT hanging from my rear view window of the car! "
A sacred gift. well you can call it sacred to yourself, to me it would be special. To receive any gift is significant, and special, likewise to give a gift, if it is for the right reasons.
Well thats my take on it