Who Pagan Bullies Are and What Makes Them Tick

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I thought this article might be useful for someone who is, or has been feeling, "bullied"

Who Pagan Bullies Are and What Makes Them Tick
 
 A bully is a person who:

* refuses to acknowledge or accept responsibility for their behaviour and its consequences
 
* is primarily concerned with their own pleasure

* wants power over others, and is willing to use and abuse other people to get what they want.

*  is consistent with whatever type of abuse they specialize in - it occurs every time you see them, and not just when they are in a bad mood

* is unwilling to recognize that there could be better ways of behaving. Bullying is obsessive and compulsive; they have to have someone to bully and appear to be unable to survive without a current target.
 
"Bullying is a compulsive need to displace aggression and is achieved by the expression of inadequacy (social, personal, interpersonal, behavioural, professional) by projection of that inadequacy onto others through control and subjugation (criticism, exclusion, isolation etc). Bullying is sustained by abdication of responsibility (denial, counter-accusation, pretence of victimhood) and perpetuated by a climate of fear, ignorance, indifference, silence, denial, disbelief, deception, evasion of accountability, tolerance and reward (eg. promotion) for the bully"
            ~ Tim Field, 1999

Bullying can happen in any group of people, whatever its type or size, or the age of its members. There are many different types of bullying, and bullies can range from the seriously psychotic and sociopathic behaviours all the way down to people who push others around only when they themselves are under pressure. On this site we are dealing mostly with the sociopathic or narcissistic types of bullies.

A bullying incident can range anywhere from a punch in the nose to a  rolling of the eyes at a crucial moment. It is usually the sneaky verbal or non-verbal invalidations that cause the most damage. A punch in the nose is obvious, and can be returned, while the more subtle attack may go unnoticed, and unpunished, while it injures its victim. Adult bullies have usually learned it's safest for them to use psychological abuse rather than physical, and so they will often try to isolate his or her target by turning Community members against the person. Rumours might be spread about a victim's personal life or even their mental health and suitability to be out in society.
 
for the rest of the very enlightening article and related pages go to:

http://www.geocities.com/pagan_bullies/who_they_are.htm

http://www.geocities.com/pagan_bullies/gossip.htm
http://www.geocities.com/pagan_bullies/who_they_are.htm
http://www.geocities.com/pagan_bullies/accomplices.htm
http://www.geocities.com/pagan_bullies/who_they_pick_on.htm
http://www.geocities.com/pagan_bullies/action_to_take.htm
http://www.geocities.com/pagan_bullies/role_of_community.htm
http://www.geocities.com/pagan_bullies/falsely_accused.htm
http://www.geocities.com/pagan_bullies/your_stories.htm