For me , my family didn't want me to know my nativeness. Even their families kept them out to some degree.
It was a matter of historical problems. SOme they witnessed some they knew about , and they just didn't want me to go through that bullshit.
So it was for many families that are native but who's children no nothing while growing up.
I understand where they were coming from. But the problem here is that when I , and others find and found out, we become , at first reaction, very upset. You can guess or figure out all the possibilities of what 'upset" can mean.
It takes a while for these people , us, to get over it and calm down enough to move forward. But they do, we do , I did.
Thats who my family is , at least from what we are talking about here.
I don't have to have an opinion about it anymore. Its a matter of accepting that this is what happened and move on.
and before anyone says anything, I did move on. I only come back to discussions like this once in a while, cause I did experience some things and I find it interesting.